What is your name?
My name is Alexandra Victory Gold.
What is your husbands name?
My husband’s name is Michael Richard Jackson Bonner.
Tell me about how you both met?
My sister set us up after she and him met at a dinner party. After this dinner party, she called me the next morning to tell me she met a man who seemed “perfect” for me. I asked how she figured he’d be a good match, and her response was: “He’s tall, wears glasses, is educated, believes in God, was a varsity rower, plays lead guitar, loves Led Zeppelin and…he’s conservative!” I did a quick Google search and was curious to know more about this mystery man. The timing of this news was perfect. I had just finished reading a book about the difference between ‘dating’ and ‘courting’ in a romantic relationship. I realized if I wanted to be in a position to meet my future soulmate, I could no longer accept the modern standard of dating and had to set the bar higher in an effort court and be courted.
What attracted you to him? Tell me about your dating and courtship.
The first time Michael and I met, we discussed all sorts of interesting topics: from the intellectual dangers of censorship in universities, to the love of incense in church, to the need for competition in the marketplace. I remember Michael talking about his doctoral thesis in Persian history and for the first time in my life, rather than thinking history was boring, I thought, “this guy could teach me a thing or two about such matters!” After our first meeting, we exchanged emails and didn’t see each other for another 10 days or so.
Tell us about the courtship?
Our next meeting happened by chance at a mutual acquaintance’s book launch. After the event, a few of us decided to go out for cocktails and oysters nearby. There was live piano playing alongside some sexy saxophone. Michael asked me to dance – something which had never happened before nor since – and at the end of the dance, we shared a very PG-13 kiss. I was smitten!
When did you know he was the one?
Fast forward to our first winter vacation as a couple in Mexico. On our first night there, Michael and I had a great discussion about our relationship and our goals and desires in this life. We knew then and there that we wanted to be married and to have a family. Michael is a man who lets me be myself. He encourages me to be more refined and patient in times of doubt without saying too much. He always leads by example and now that we are pregnant with our second child, I know God waited as long as he did to bring Michael into my life, because he knew it wouldn’t take long for us to make that statement of commitment before the alter.
What was the most amazing thing about THE DRESS?
Justina and her work came highly recommended to me. I wanted a mature and traditional wedding gown. Justina understood what I wanted immediately! She showed me a couple of samples and then showed me this breathtaking French lace for the custom made bodice with a sweetheart neckline. It was perfect! We decided to use an Italian silk for the skirt with lots of toul underneath to give the skirt more volume. The dress itself was classic! What’s more, I wanted to cover my arms for the ceremony. Here is where Justina’s genius shone through. With the leftover lace from the bodice, Justina designed and sewed a gorgeous bolero with crystal buttons from the wrist to the elbows. I loved the structure of the bolero and the subtle sparkle of the buttons. I also loved how the sleeves were slightly longer at the top of my hand – a small detail which greatly enhanced the classic look of the bolero. My favourite part of the dress was the way it moved with me – down the aisle as a singe woman, up the aisle as a newly married woman beside my husband, and later, on the dance floor. I still get compliments on my wedding dress today and I still get those sentiments of elegance and grace just thinking about that special day!
Where was the ceremony and the reception held?
Our wedding was very traditional. We were married in the Ukrainian Catholic Church. We were married in the same church in which my grandparent’s and aunt were married. It felt extra special to be the third generation taking part in that sacrament. Apart from the church and the venue, the dress was the most important factor to me!